Understanding Reciprocal Relationships is an important consideration in any attempt to develop, preserve, improve or enhance a relationship. Most people in relationships come by this understanding either by happenstance or through lifelong experience. Some never do, and end up with their relationship irreparably damaged or broken London Escorts. “Reciprocal” is roughly defined as given or felt by each toward the other; mutual. The world English Dictionary defines it as “indicating that action is given and received by each subject.
In order for a relationship to be reciprocal, focus must pertain to both partners. If the relationship is beneficial or advantageous primarily for one side, an automatic imbalance of power and interest surfaces. The one side gets to reap the benefits to the detriment of the other, and such a relationship cannot survive long. Oftentimes, the benefits to the recipient in a relationship is immediately obvious; but sometimes the benefit is one obtained from the act of giving(or serving, which itself has latent benefits that the giver alone derives.
Furthermore, there are relationships, where one typically only receives rather than gives; and while this may seem at a glance to be beneficial to the recipient, it may be in effect detrimental, as the recipient generally does so as a passive recipient, an empty vessel, a mere beneficiary of some unspecified charitable act, stripped of his own power or will to choose or act for himself.
In a more balanced relationship, individuals offer a service to one another and both individuals experience learning – thereby benefiting both relatively equally, and engaging relatively equally. This conceptualization blurs the lines between serving and learning from having served, and receiving and learning from having received. It suggests that there are ultimate psychological and emotional benefits to giving or serving as well as to receiving.
To achieve these more balanced ends, both partners must collaborate in the processes of designing, implementing, and assessing the relationship experience. They must have comparably equivalent levels of power in order to embed their needs in the development of the relationship, protect their needs when it is enacted, and evaluate how their needs are met throughout the duration of the relationship.
Therefore, in order to determine the reciprocal nature of a relationship, then, one must consider not only the focus of the relationship as well as who benefits, but also the relative power of both participants in setting that focus and designating who benefits.